Sharing wisdom that comes from parenting our parents
There’s a moment in dementia caregiving that no one really prepares you for. Not the diagnosis, not the paperwork, not even the first time you have to explain what a “remote control” is… again. It’s the quieter realization that somewhere along the way, the roles have flipped. You’re no longer just the child. Congratulations, you’ve …
One of the most jarring moments in dementia caregiving is not just the anger. It is the language. A parent who never swore suddenly uses profanity. A spouse who was always gentle blurts out crude or shocking words. The once-reserved loved one yells something that feels completely out of character. If this has happened to …
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When people think about caregiving, they often imagine the big, heavy moments: medical appointments, medications, emergencies, end-of-life decisions. What doesn’t get talked about as much are the smaller, quieter skills we develop along the way—the ones that don’t come with instructions but shape us just as deeply. One of those skills is learning how to …
I have posted about loss before, as it concerns family and caregiving. Loss of personhood of a loved one due to the ravages of dementia. Loss of who we, the caregivers, were before the demands of the job changed us. There is also the ultimate loss to death that we know approaches but work so …
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