There’s a moment in dementia caregiving that no one really prepares you for. Not the diagnosis, not the paperwork, not even the first time you have to explain what a “remote control” is… again. It’s the quieter realization that somewhere along the way, the roles have flipped. You’re no longer just the child. Congratulations, you’ve …
So Many Ways We Say Goodbye
When people think about caregiving, they often imagine the big, heavy moments: medical appointments, medications, emergencies, end-of-life decisions. What doesn’t get talked about as much are the smaller, quieter skills we develop along the way—the ones that don’t come with instructions but shape us just as deeply. One of those skills is learning how to …
The Impermanence of Things
I have posted about loss before, as it concerns family and caregiving. Loss of personhood of a loved one due to the ravages of dementia. Loss of who we, the caregivers, were before the demands of the job changed us. There is also the ultimate loss to death that we know approaches but work so …
What If I Don’t Want a Role Reversal?
Role reversals, when younger family member(s) assume parental duties over a parent, are just part of the caregiving landscape. Most of us do not like them. We probably did not want them in the first place. Yet here we all are. Meltdown on Aisle 3 Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com Who knew that wanting …
