I have posted about loss before, as it concerns family and caregiving. Loss of personhood of a loved one due to the ravages of dementia. Loss of who we, the caregivers, were before the demands of the job changed us. There is also the ultimate loss to death that we know approaches but work so …
What If I Don’t Want a Role Reversal?
Role reversals, when younger family member(s) assume parental duties over a parent, are just part of the caregiving landscape. Most of us do not like them. We probably did not want them in the first place. Yet here we all are. Meltdown on Aisle 3 Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com Who knew that wanting …
The Low-Hanging Fruit of the Emotional Response
Mom is mad at me again. I did not give her the response she wanted from me and she got angry. Angry enough to hang up on me, only to call again the next day. Dementia strips away a lot of the filters we all use to be civil in society. It has been said …
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Did We Lose Someone?
In one of Life’s abundant ironies, my father never knew the person I became because of him. Growing up, Dad tried to direct my development along paths he thought best, but he found a particularly frustrating subject in me. So many learning lessons did not take. At least, at first. One of those lessons was …
