I have posted about loss before, as it concerns family and caregiving. Loss of personhood of a loved one due to the ravages of dementia. Loss of who we, the caregivers, were before the demands of the job changed us. There is also the ultimate loss to death that we know approaches but work so …
Did We Lose Someone?
In one of Life’s abundant ironies, my father never knew the person I became because of him. Growing up, Dad tried to direct my development along paths he thought best, but he found a particularly frustrating subject in me. So many learning lessons did not take. At least, at first. One of those lessons was …
The Lies of Caregiving
I think that, like most of us, we think of ourselves as basically honest individuals. We are not prone to much dishonesty and help one another whenever possible. So how did becoming a caregiver turn me into someone who can lie with a straight face? I think back to my childhood and all of the …
Acquiring An Independent Nature
While not a rule (we are notable for a diversity of skills and attitudes), caregivers are more often made, than come equipped for the job. Stepping out of a comfortable role as a family member, only to hit the ground running in a leadership role, is quite the change. As we become leaders in our …
