The world of a caregiver is dramatically divided between taking care of the business-at-hand on the outside and the turmoil of emotion on the inside. Life lessons come hard and I find that sharing is helpful, both for me and those who are also on the journey. Part therapy and part instructional, I hope some of my experiences are of value to the reader.
The Impermanence of Things
I have posted about loss before, as it concerns family and caregiving. Loss of personhood of a loved one due to the ravages of dementia. Loss of who we, the caregivers, were before the demands of the job changed us. There is also the ultimate loss to death that we know approaches but work so…
What If I Don’t Want a Role Reversal?
Role reversals, when younger family member(s) assume parental duties over a parent, are just part of the caregiving landscape. Most of us do not like them. We probably did not want them in the first place. Yet here we all are. Meltdown on Aisle 3 Who knew that wanting to cry in frustration was going…
The Low-Hanging Fruit of the Emotional Response
Mom is mad at me again. I did not give her the response she wanted from me and she got angry. Angry enough to hang up on me, only to call again the next day. Dementia strips away a lot of the filters we all use to be civil in society. It has been said…
Did We Lose Someone?
In one of Life’s abundant ironies, my father never knew the person I became because of him. Growing up, Dad tried to direct my development along paths he thought best, but he found a particularly frustrating subject in me. So many learning lessons did not take. At least, at first. One of those lessons was…
Not Meeting Expectations
Life not meeting our expectations would seem to be more of a rule than an exception, though one might be hard pressed to find evidence of this in current society. All the wailing and stamping of feet fueled by social media access certainly does a great job of amplifying the disappointments. While obnoxious, all of…
Managing Caregiving
Whether alone or with the support of friends and/or family, caregiving is a lifestyle that demands attention. I did the group care thing my first time down this road, but as I am finding, the experience of managing the demands of caregiving by yourself has a decidedly different flavor. Caring Together My first experience of…
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